In this election period, the political conversations are of all the dinners. We comment, argue, debate ... All in a more or less relaxed atmosphere. While some remain open to differences of opinion, others are far more uncompromising ... Testimonials.
Caroline Langlois Margaux Rambert
"With my father, politics is a taboo subject"
I do not speak politics with my father. This necessarily turns to vinegar. I think it's a problem of tolerance. Generation, too. I had an easy childhood, him no. As a result, he pays attention to his personal lifestyle. He is not in the gift, the generosity ...
I often tell him that he thinks only of himself. He tells me that he has lived enough to know he is right. As if his age made his opinion more viable than mine. However, if you have the right to vote at 18, it is good that one is able to have his own convictions!
My father is more interested in the personality of the candidate than in the current he represents. For me, the important thing is the philosophy behind the promises, the proposals. Since the presidential campaign began, we have already quarreled three times. My mother decided that we would no longer talk about politics with the family. I find it a pity, disappointing even, not to discuss calmly. But I do not see it as a failure. Rather as a way of preserving a cordial understanding.
I think the problem lies in the lack of understanding of our respective lives and personalities: for example, my parents took years to realize that it was difficult for young people to find a job! It is also true that, as I hold more and more to my convictions, I get angry quickly. What I can not stand is that I am told that I am wrong. We have the right not to agree. But not to seek by all means to gain the upper hand over the other.
I never felt guilty for not sharing the same values as my parents, but I struggled to assert mine. Today it's easier because I have my life, a job, a house ... And I'm getting married to someone who shares the same vision as me. From now on, I am no longer the only opponent!
"How to build if you do not have the same principles?"
I can not imagine being in a relationship with someone who has political beliefs different from mine. I lived for three years with a man who was voting in the center, while I am rather left, and we spent a lot of time, especially during the election period, to argue over these matters.The differences were not huge though! But his approach to the world was, in my eyes, not humanistic enough, too individualistic.
It must be said that we were both passionate about politics and very knowledgeable about the subject. I was often at the origin of our arguments: I could not take a distance and not be in the affect. It seems to me that behind the political convictions hides a certain apprehension of the world, and a whole system of values which form the indispensable basis for a couple. How can I imagine building my life, and even worse, raising children, with someone who does not have the same great principles as me?
"We find ourselves on common values"
Marie, 56 years old
With my husband, we talk politics together but it's more of a monologue from him ... since Nicolas Sarkozy was in power. He met him several times, maybe that influenced him. It's his champion. He keeps reminding us that he saved us from the crisis (on that I do not dispute too much). But sometimes I do not agree with the methods, the character ...
When my husband gets to find a personality left to his taste, it becomes easier to discuss. There is an intelligence on the left, what the hell! The real criticism he makes is that the left is sectarian. That's pretty true, so I let it go. The right people have other faults that I remind them of.
When we met each other, we voted in the same way. We had known each other only the right to power, we lived in a privileged environment, protected from lack of money, unemployment. 1981 was a real upheaval! During the dinners, I discovered that very close friends voted to the left. Unbelievable! We could think differently.
At first the debates were heated. Then I started to get interested in politics. And I met more and more people from the other side, especially at the office, who opened my eyes a little. I then had a big "green" period. Values that I still defend today even if I sometimes have trouble with their representatives!
This difference in voting between us does not pose huge problems. Because beyond, we find ourselves on common values, well above all debates: education, religion, work ... This is what prevents us from arguing too much!