How can I explain to my boss that I will not work during the holidays?
Only a few days before your holidays and idleness. The problem is that the day before your departure, your boss comes to you to ask you to take "just a few hours next week to reread a presentation to be made in the steering committee in ten days" . How to react and explain to your manager that no, you will not work during your holidays?
Occupational Psychologist and Organizations
You are determined to go on vacation with peace of mind and serenity, without a shadow to darken your blue sky. But it has just filled with clouds and if you really listen, it could even take lightning given the anger that this type of demand creates at home.
Refusing a request from his supervisor is not equivalent to rejecting that of a stranger in the street. In your situation, the challenge is twofold: preserve your time off and maintain a good relationship with your boss. It is likely that he will still be there in September and start the year with reciprocal grievances is not the best way to be serene for the recovery.
To convey a message that seems tricky to you, let's try together a small technique of self-assertion in 4 points: DESC.
First, describe the situation in a factual way using the "I", without expressing your emotions and showing that you take into account the request of your interlocutor.
For example: "I understand your need to make sure that the presentation is ready for the management committee, and I see that you are asking me at 48 hours of my holidays to work during my holidays and therefore to interrupt them".
Then, Express your emotions in relation to this request.
"I do not like this request because it would force me to do something that I refuse to do: to interrupt a time with my family for work while I am taking time off to rest, so I can not not answer you favorably ".
Then, propose to find a solution together.
"As I understand that it is important for you and that I do not wish to work during my holidays (technique of the disc striped: it repeats its position), I propose that we find together a solution which we Would you like to take an hour tomorrow when I will explain to the person who will prepare the presentation in my absence what it needs to be attentive to succeed in it? evolve this person on the subject and make it more autonomous ... Do you have other ideas to propose?"
Finally, Conclude by validating the options chosen.
" So we agree to take an hour tomorrow morning with my "replacement" and you, to highlight the conditions for success of this presentation.
If your leader insists and does not hear your refusal , you can use one of the following three techniques:
- An empathic response to the content: "I understand that you want me to is working next week, but I will not do it and that's why I propose that we devise a solution together. "
- An empathic response to the process:" I regret that you insist, I find that you do not respect my decision. "
- A request for change:" I would really like you to stop insisting and we are moving towards a win-win solution. "
You're ready for heaven blue and remember that rest is part of training: to be effective your return, you need to rest during the summer.