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East it a good idea to watch the movie Belle de jour with my 14 year old daughter?

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East it a good idea to watch the movie Belle de jour with my 14 year old daughter?

I have a 14 year old girl and I usually watch classic movies with her to bring her to literature. Do you think I can watch with Luis Buñuel's "Belle de jour", commenting on it and explaining it? Philippe, Lille

Claude Halmos

Psychoanalyst

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You tell me, Philippe, to have planned to show this film to your daughter because of the quality of the acting (it is undeniable). And also because of the themes addressed by this film ("fantasy life, you say, criticism of the bourgeoisie, bovarysm"). Is.

But the problem, it seems to me, is not that of the themes evoked by this film, such as we could discuss among adults. It's what a teenager of 14 can see. And what she can see given that it is not a girlfriend or a friend who offers this film, but his father. Because, from there, essential questions (conscious and unconscious) will arise to her. Why does my dad show me this movie? What does he want me to see? And what does he want me to experience? (Because the erotic dimension of Belle de jour - of which you do not, of course - is essential.) And what does he want me to experience in his company? (Because when we see a movie with someone, we share with him, or her, the emotions that cross us.) And I think we can even add: what does my father want me to become? that I am?

Belle de jour indeed shows a relationship to sexuality, certain sexual practices, priced sex that can both shock and fascinate a teenager whose sexuality is under construction. The beauty of Catherine Deneuve lends itself to making the character she embodies an identificatory model. And it may be all the more disturbing for your daughter that it has been proposed by his father.

So your idea is not, I think, a good idea, and I'm surprised you did not see it. As I'm surprised you did not mention your daughter's mother. What does she think of your project?

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