How to forget the eyes of others?
I am obsessed with the eyes of others. When I walk in the street, for example, I am very uncomfortable and I keep asking myself how to behave, where to look, etc. How to forget others and live life to the full? Annie, 21 years old
In the field of social relations, the range of situations that can create anxiety is wide. She goes from fear of eating, swallowing, writing in front of others to handicapping fears, such as agoraphopy (fear of going out, fear of the crowd, fear of taking public transport ...), claustrophobia, phobia social.
How to forget others and live life to the full? Life in society is based on a reciprocal interaction, we can even say that being attentive, preoccupied by what others think of us, is a fundamental characteristic of the human being. The gaze of others allows us to self-evaluate, to reframe ourselves. Often he is rewarding. In contrast, the phobia of gaze, called social anxiety, becomes problematic when you experience a feeling of discomfort, discomfort that can go as far as anxiety, mental ruminations, anxious anticipation or even panic.
The mechanisms involved and which preside over its appearance are diverse. One can evoke an image of yourself weakened either by difficult experiences in your past, or by devaluing words. A reflection on yourself, helped if necessary by a therapist, will allow you to go back to the sources of what you call an "obsession".
Know also that behavioral and cognitive therapies (see our section on all therapies) have experimentally validated techniques that have proved their effectiveness in the field of phobias.
Faty Guessoum is a Clinical Psychologist, Cognitive-Behavioral Psychotherapist and Relaxologist- Hypnotherapist. She practices at the Pluralis Center in Paris.