This is a subject that I have not yet dealt with in depth but which affects many people. I see it in your comments, during my coachings and in my workshops. Many women have a particular couple problem because the man behaves badly, does everything to be hated, for one purpose, to be dumped. Yes, men are not always easy to understand and their behavior in the sentimental life may be meaningless because his goal is to be quit but he does not want to make the decision to break up!
One would think that it is enough for him to leave you rather than to act thus but he seems decided not to do it and impossible to know the reason of his attitude. For him it's up to his girlfriend to break up if she's not happy, so he lets you take that painful decision. Obviously in such a difficult case to know what attitude to adopt. You do not know how to react because its behavior deserves that you leave but you like it and you want to save your couple. When a woman says "he wants to push me to break" she does not have 50,000 solutions available to her. But even to make a choice, you must first try to understand your partner to improve communication (if it is possible I assure you!).
After all, it is quite common that a man does not wish to take his courage with both hands and that he prefers that the initiative comes from the woman who shares her life. The fact that it behaves this way can be confusing, so it's time to find out more to avoid separation, because even at this point things can still evolve in the right direction, all of which being knowing how to proceed.
Does my man really want to leave me?
Before all things, it is important not to make mistakes and to avoid any misinterpretation and therefore to imagine the worst. If you've been thinking for two days for an argument or another reason, do not panic and say " he's going to break it's just a matter of time "After all, couple life has its ups and downs, having tensions and not always being on top is perfectly normal, it would be quite healthy when it does not go beyond a certain stage. Reminder is good because many women make the mistake of confusing an argument and a desire to break.
If he did not send you a message that day, that does not mean he wants to make you suffer. It is important not to be wrong and to consider the worst immediately. The couples I am referring to in this article have been experiencing tensions for weeks, sometimes even months, and both men and women are on their nerves. It is not a few days to ignore each other or to be wandering around that is enough to believe that his man wants to leave and to tell himself that he is doing everything to make you angry and that you decide to break up.
I know that most of you need to be reassured because the panic happens too quickly and you imagine the worst right now. It is quite normal, when you care about a man, that you really love him from the bottom of your heart, not to want to let him go. However, an argument or a disagreement does not put everything in question. On the other hand, if it has been months that it behaves and that it adopts a negative attitude or that it is execrable with you, then there yes, it is necessary to sound the alarm bell.
Why a man does not have the courage to break
When we realize that a man is considering separation and that we say to ourselves " he wants to push me to break There are several explanations, but two stand out.
The external eyes prevent him from breaking
When you share a woman's life, especially for the longest relationships, you also share your family life, your friends, you have children, separation is not easy. Not only in a personal way, to tell a woman that we have married, with whom we live, with whom we have founded a family we want to break is not simple, but also when we know that others will judge us so it's even more delicate. We must find the courage to do it even if its decision has already been made for a long time and it is also in relation to others that we have a blockage.
If he acts in this way and he waiting for his wife to make the decision to leave him it is to avoid passing for the man who abandons his family without any remorse and who does not assume his responsibilities. Indeed, to announce to his parents, his relatives, his friends and especially to his children this news is not simple and in most cases his goal is not to have the bad role. Even if you tell your loved ones "he did not respect me anymore, he was not thinking about me anymore, he was not here" you will still be the one who ended the relationship. This is obviously the place we want to avoid.
He is probably trying to pretend to be what he is not by putting himself in the position of the "victim". When my services are called upon and I notice this kind of behavior, one very quickly comes to the conclusion that its purpose is to have the right role in relation to the judgment of others, but also in relation to the courts because at the moment of divorcing the situation will take another proportion. The aim is therefore to avoid arriving at this stage.
He wants to push me to the end to break any reasons?
However, it is not always necessary to consider that it is the man who has all the twists. It behaves badly by wanting to push you and not treating you the way you deserve, but chances are it's not free. We do not want turn his wife into jail simply for pleasure for months. If his intentions of breaking are verified, it is because something was wrong with your couple and his behavior is explained in this way.
His attitude can also be a alarm call to save his couple, your couple. I grant you this is not the best way to do the opposite, it is by acting as it aggravates the situation. But men are not really good communicators and they do not have this sensitivity. In order to avoid separation and especially to revive the flame in your household, it is important to use effective actions that will have an impact on him. Exactly if you too want to make peace in your household, I give you 35 in my ebook in immediate access!
The coach when he pushes me to leave him